Hovering or Helping? Exploring the Phenomenon of Helicopter Parenting

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By Deva Narayan

The joys of having a child is an experience that is shared across every continent, every country and every culture. Since the dawn of time, it has always been a parent’s priority to ensure that their child is safe and happy, however the standards of the safety and happiness has vastly inflated over time. It can be seen in modern society that a parent’s extreme efforts to ensure the wellbeing of their child induces a counter effect, by affecting their child in many different ways, many of them negatively.

A term that has arisen in recent times due to the extreme actions of some parents for their children is ‘Helicopter Parenting’. It is a term that is used to describe parents that take extreme, irrational and obsessive actions and behaviours for their children. Often times, it leads to the parent being obsessed with controlling every aspect of their child life, taking away their reins for creativity and individuality. The most common form of excessive parenting that can be seen in some higher reaches of society today is the use of CCTV cameras to perpetually keep their child on observation. Some have installed CCTV cameras in the rooms of their house, which is not a bad precaution but other parents take it too far by enrolling their children in schools that have CCTV surveillance just so they can view every part of their day. While it may not seem troublesome at the surface, this activity teaches the children that they are always under watch and critcized for any mistake they perform. It limits their freedom by enabling the thought that “Mom/Dad is watching”.

CCTV surveillance is only a base form of helicopter parenting, unfortunately. A small range of new parents find that the world outside their children is too harsh for them and limit their worldview by confining them to the premises of their house or apartment. THere is very little more mental damage you can cause to a child as it doesn’t allow them to be able to face the real world as adults. Another dangerous practice is the excessive pampering of children, by always putting their happiness, no matter how unnecessary or irrational, before logic. Some examples can be seen in undisciplined children as their parents felt it was too cruel to teach them the error of their ways.

Helicopter parenting has been seen to arise mostly in the modern era, where children of old were rarely limited in their freedom. While parents of older generations did care about their child, there was a general consensus that a child would not be able to grow and mature sufficiently unless they were exposed to the outside world and the various problems that resided in it. Every parent should feel love and affection for their child but true expression of such love is not taking away their opportunity to have their own childhood, it is instead allowing them freedom to seek the world on their own and educating them when they cause mistakes.

Note: The viewpoints and stances articulated in the article are the author’s personal views and may not necessarily align with those of the edu news team

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